Get Over Your Fear Of Your First Date
Posted on February 13, 2009
The thought of going out with someone for the very first time can be somewhat intimidating. But it doesn’t have to be. The first thing to keep in mind is to organize the date around a setting or event that you are both comfortable with. Don’t go all out for this first get together. Keep your first date simple. Then if the two of you click, you can be more elaborate in your planning for your future dates. For the first date, try to pick a place that is laid back such as a place that has a Coffee machine so you can enjoy a cup of coffee together or a lower class restaurant. This way, you and your friend won’t have to be overly concerned about pronouncing the names of fancy dishes or which spoon to use.
Your appearance on your first date will leave a lasting impression. Dress neatly and appropriately. For example, if you are going to the opera, formal attire would be a good idea. If you are going to a festival, casual would be more appropriate. Try to avoid dressing too provocatively. This can be a distraction. And it may give the impression that you are only interested in getting physical with your date rather than getting to know the person. That doesn’t mean you can’t make an effort however. Splashing out on some new bare escentuals makeup or what ever your favourate is will make you feel more confident – and it is really all about how you feel.
Use the first date as an opportunity to get to know your date. This will help you determine if this is person is your type and if the two of you have anything in common. Don’t go out of your way to get the person to like you. Just be yourself. Avoid talking about failed romances and other baggage from your past. Instead talk about your interests and activities that you enjoy. Be honest with the person. Don’t mislead them into believing that you are interested in another date with them if you are not. At the end of the date thank them and leave it at that if there is no further interest. If you are interested, make plans to speak again.
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