Young Men & Older Women: What to Consider
Posted on March 2, 2009
In Western culture, the thought of young men & older women results in a mixture of emotions. On the one hand, people often think that such a combination probably has a wild time in the bedroom, since it’s believed both groups are at their sexual peak. However, on the other hand, many are skeptical about whether or not such a union is going to last.
Well, here’s the deal with young men & older women. I believe that there might be sexual curiosity in the beginning, but once those desires are fulfilled, the couple must face some of the more grim realities of their union. Once the spark has died down a bit, the young man might want to look elsewhere for more fun. Older women will start being more concerned on how they look. Buying lots of cosmetics online and younger looking wardrobes are just the start for the older woman to compete with the more younger crowd. After the initial “fling” is over, young men will usually stray.
For example, most young men enjoy playing the field before settling down. However, older women have already gone through those years, and are usually looking for something more stable. This issue is worsened if the woman has children that are in need of a father figure. She might want to get married a lot faster to help fulfill these needs.
In this way it is more than just looks. No matter how good the cosmetic surgery you have to make you look younger is, the other person will be at a different maturity level to you and that is a devide that will remain no matter how long you are together for.
In addition, what if the man wants kids of his own? If he dates a woman in her 40s, it’s only so long before nature intervenes. When this happens, the couple will have to either adopt or use fertility treatments to have children.
Of course, there are some men that say they don’t want kids, so that issue isn’t really a factor to them. However, what you think at 21 may not be what you think at 31. And that’s one of the main problems with May-December relationships– the older party is getting with a person who has just begun their journey into adulthood. They are bound to change their perspectives as they get older.
Yet, there are couples who have made it past the storms, despite the age difference. Halle Berry and her boyfriend are an example. There is a 10-year age difference, yet the very attractive couple appear to be more in love than ever. Demi More and Ashton Kutcher are another example, and they have an even greater age difference.
So, with that being said, I definitely don’t want to discourage those in May-December romances. All I want to do is get people to think about some of these issues before they come up. That way, the couple can sit down and talk about these things and try to work out a resolve before these issues become a serious problem
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