Simple Dating Tips for Men
Posted on March 9, 2009
What’s the secret to attracting women? Men who are struggling to find that special someone are often wondering this question. They believe that maybe if they were cuter, richer or funnier that one day that beautiful bombshell is going to magically come out of the woodworks. Some of these people turn to male cosmetic surgery or go out and spend a vast amount of money buying cosmetics. But in reality, these factors only make up part of the equation. What’s more important is your confidence and how you approach a woman.
And, I want to emphasize the word approach, because too many men have become comfortable with newer, more feminist dating trends. They believe they don’t have to worry about making the first move because if a woman likes them, she’ll be the one to ignite the spark. This couldn’t be further from the truth. There are still MANY women who feel that the man should approach her. And she will wait forever until that happens. If you don’t approach her, she will think you lost interest and move on.
So, with that being said how does a man go about approaching a woman? There are three approaches, which I will discuss below.
1. The Player
The player approach is one where a man flirts in an almost crazy fashion. He uses verbal and nonverbal cues to make his interest clear. But is it effective? It depends. If a woman has low self-esteem, or is just horny, she may fall for this approach. But women who are looking for something long-term usually can see through the phoniness and will outright reject you.
2. The Friend
The friend approach is a much classier way of asking a woman out. Unlike the player approach, the friend does not flirt verbally. And non-verbal cues are used to a minimum, (if at all). However, there is also a downside to this approach, as it’s simply not aggressive enough. Despite whatever the media says, women CANNOT read men’s minds. If you don’t tell us directly that you’re interested in something more, we’re going to assume you want to stay friends forever.
3. Normal
The normal approach uses combination of friendship and flirtation to let a woman know a man is interested. Start off with asking her out for a cup of coffee at the Coffee machine and take it from there. Combining both friendship and flirtation works well because it gives the girl a chance to warm up to you and know that you are looking for more. This is why it remains the best approach for men seeking girlfriends. It lets a woman directly know your intent without making you seem like a horny dog.
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